Night owl. Morning lark. Clutter bug. Neat freak. These are often referred to as “natural tendencies,” but are they really natural? Could they be something learned, or the result of not learning? How does the idea of “natural tendencies” fit with how YHWH created humans?
Recently, I had Heather from The Homesteading Hippy over and she said something that really got me thinking. She’s really good at that, actually! I love how she tells it like it is, at least how she sees it anyway. Sometimes, I disagree. This was one of those times, but it took some mulling over the question before I really could really articulate what I was thinking. What was the question, you ask?
Why do you fight against your natural tendencies?
You see, I have always said I was a night owl. I would rather stay up all night and sleep all day. I love the peace and quiet in the house, and there is something about being awake when the rest of the world is asleep that I enjoy, and something about getting up early that I do not.
Maybe it’s because I’ve always been kind of a rebel and a loner.
So, the question was why do I fight against my natural tendencies and try to get up early to get things done? Why not do them after everyone goes to bed since that is when I feel like I function the best? I’ve been trying to figure out just how that would work with our life and honestly, I just don’t see how it could. She had some good suggestions, like train the kids to sleep late so they’re not getting up before me and running amok. My 13 year old is already trained pretty well there, but the 6 year old, while he doesn’t wake up insanely early, still would get up before I would want. Still, I just didn’t see it happening.
My mind kept going back to that phrase…natural tendencies. I thought about how I was created in YHWHs image – shouldn’t my natural tendencies reflect his? If they don’t, are they really natural? Where did they come from? What should I be reflecting?
- YHWH is orderly – there is a place for everything and everything has its place. The stars, the planets, even comets have orbits. He established clear boundaries for the atmosphere, the oceans, the dry land. Grass grows in dirt. Hair grows on people and animals. That never gets confused.
- YHWH is schedule-y and routine-y – creation operates in cycles. His calendar is cyclical – the feast days are on the same days (on the Hebrew calendar, anyway) every year. The sun rises and sets in a prescribed manner. Spring, summer, fall, winter…every year the seasons follow this order.
- YHWH does everything with excellence and with purpose – our limited perception keeps us from seeing the purpose in some things, but if we had his perspective we would see that everything he does is perfect and accomplishes a meaningful purpose.
The verse about training up our children came to mind. I thought about my own training as a child. I was not “trained up” in a Torah keeping family, so my natural tendencies are more of a reflection of the world’s – do what you want, what feels right to you. Maybe because my parents often uttered, in exasperation, “do what you want, you don’t listen anyway”. Oh, the power of the tiny tongue. I was kind of a pain as a child, I’ll admit.
You see, I realized that by not being taught the way of Torah as a child I learned to follow my flesh. To do what seems right to me. It feels natural for me to stay up all night and sleep all day because that’s what my flesh wants to do. It doesn’t want to be constrained by things like schedules and routines. Where’s the fun in that?
Last week in my Clean Heart Devotional journaling time, I realized that by not being schedule-y and routine-y I’m very much like a disengaged gear. Spinning but not getting much accomplished. Never really connecting well. How are those natural tendencies working out for me? If frustration and disappointment are a measure of success, then I’ve been very successful! Are those natural tendencies a reflection of my Creator? I think not.
I’m thankful that Heather asked that question. It made me really think. I know I have a lot of work ahead of me to retrain myself to be something I always believed I was not. Funny thing, beliefs. Sometimes they’re not as true as you think they are.
That’s when things change.
Thank you for posting this! You are reminding me of the importance of orderliness, which I have been sorely lacking. I have allowed myself to be frustrated with the children’s lack of follow-through, when the truth is that I should be stepping up to do what is necessary myself. If I remind myself that my goal is to reflect Him more, that perspective will take me where I need to go.
You’re welcome! It’s so easy to focus on what the kids aren’t doing and overlook that we should be leading and guiding them. I love what you said there “If I remind myself that my goal is to reflect Him more, that perspective will take me where I need to go.” So very true! Thanks so much for stopping by and taking the time to comment, I sure appreciate it!
Loved this post. Like always we think a like. I have had these same exact thoughts lately. I so want to fight against what He has for me, and that never seems to work. Then I try and be all He created me to be, but I try and do it in my own strength, instead of Yeshewa’s. That too never works. So, thanks for the word of encouragement. I want to know what the clean heart journal you keep mentioning is, can you tell me where the first post about it is? Blessings sister.
Thanks, Katie! You know what they say about great minds 😉 I have been getting a lot of feedback on this post and so many women are having these same thoughts. It’s so neat to see YHWH moving on the hearts of women and drawing them closer to him and his perfect ways. Thanks for reading and commenting, and I’m thankful you found encouragement here! That’s my aim with this blog, to encourage women wherever they are!
I am a teacher in my ” real life” Lol. My first though when I read this is some of the horrid things I have heard parents call children over the years. So sad that they believe what they hear.
Teacher is a thankless job sometimes, so I’m going to say thank you for being one!
I completely agree with you on that – I hear parents say things to their kids sometimes that just makes my spirit wither inside. So you can imagine what it does to the child! Somewhere, somehow, I made a decision to not do some things that my parents did (I don’t want to give the impression that they were terrible parents, they were not! They were like all parents, doing the best they could with what they had, doing some things right and missing the mark on other things). I still find myself sounding like my mom or dad sometimes LOL. Hard to get away from it – you have to be purposeful and mindful about it! Thanks for stopping by and commenting!
Thank you so much for that kick in the rear. Haha. My flesh would like to go to bed early *and* sleep in late! I think sometimes He gave me kids to show me how lazy I really am. :p Definitely not something very honoring to Him. Thanks for sharing this at Savoring Saturdays, Dawn. 😉
You’re welcome! I know what you mean… 😉
Jennifer N says
This really spoke to me. Thank you so much for sharing it @Faith, Hope and Homeschool.
Thank you, Jennifer! I’m so glad it spoke to you and so thrilled to find a TO linkup! Thanks for hosting it!